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Singleness

I have a bunch of single women friends in their late 30’s and have met several of them while living here in Taiwan, and most of them are enjoying the life of singleness to its fullest.

In a world where the society unintentionally imposed the state of companionship, these women chose to live a fulfilling life even without confirming to the whim of the social order.

As magazines, television shows and movies show the importance and significance of having a partner, it is more unlikely that all experience the same conclusion of what a healthy, loving and productive relationship should be.

As many as partner-advocate claimed that having a husband or a wife or just partner will make you whole and provide you comfort, direction and security, many single women have achieved the same benefits by living without men to go to bed with every night.

Some women pursued for a married life, others for a successful career, fraction go for both –marriage and a career. My friends have chosen a happy life along with a career they enjoy and survived. Many would be raising their eyebrows and say “Come on, no one can live alone. Everyone needs a man one time in the lifetime. Men can fulfill something that your friends, your jobs or your family can not.” Are we talking about intimacy? Of course, that' the reason why people get married – to be intimate with someone.

However, my friends never consider the lack of human intimacy as a hindrance to live a wonderful life. Intimacy with God is something they are cultivating. It is the same nurturing that married couple or friends have done to make the relationship stronger.

True enough that there have to be unfulfilled longings but these women have learned to surrender those longings to the Lord and trusting Him to lead them to the ways best for their hearts. A life truly surrendered to the will of God is far more fulfilling having someone snoring at the bedside.

Marriage is not a right and singleness is not an accident. Both are gifts from God out of His love and compassion. I would like to quote this from an article written by a single woman “if marriage is a "good gift" for a particular unmarried individual, God will give that gift. If He withholds the gift of marriage, it means that, at least for this time, it would not be a "good thing.".